Sexual Immorality In Marriage


Sexual immorality is a very common sin. When speaking of it we usually automatically think of a fornicating couple having sex outside of marriage or homosexuals. But this article will not deal with homosexuals or fornicators as we already know they are an abomination before God and all on their way to Hell unless they repent and turn to Jesus who will save them. Intimacy in marriage is good, encouraged in the Bible, and a gift from God but married people can also be sexually immoral in several different ways. In fact, it is commonly misunderstood that no wrong can happen in the marriage bed as long as the married couple is not bringing in other people for threesomes. This is not true, when the Bible says that the marriage bed is undefiled it is speaking of keeping the marriage bed undefiled, or pure, not that anything goes.

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4

Here, the perfect Word of God the King James Bible is implying that the bed should be kept undefiled. Some other versions go as far to even further push that point that the original author meant:
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13:4 NIV “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 13:4 ESV

Married couples who are exclusive to one another can become sexually immoral and defile the marriage bed. They can do this by engaging in sodomy which the Webster’s Dictionary defines as anal or oral sex (both abusive acts have serious health hazards). A man loving his wife like he is commanded to love her the way Jesus loved the church is not doing so by treating her like a porn star because she is his wife. This is a sign the husband still has issues with pornography, masturbation and is a pervert at heart whether he believes he is a Christian or not, he is on his way to Hell. Birth control is another major problem where couples defile the marriage bed. Many married couples are also adulterers which in some cases, not all, of divorce and remarriage are true. You can not just divorce for any reason and get remarried because “things changed, we grew apart, we are different people now, etc”. Adultery and an unbelieving spouse abandoning a believing spouse seem to be the only Biblical cause or else it is adultery and leads to Hell. Many couples that marry just for lust and to not be in fornication usually are marriages that never should have happened and will usually have sexual immorality in them followed by other major problems.

“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Matthew 19:9

“12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” 1 Corinthians 7:12-15

A major way that married couples defile not only the marriage bed but the marriage itself is dressing immodestly. Immodesty is a huge problem in the professing Christian world. Men will go out in public and make comments about their wives getting flirted with but they miss the fact that they let their wives dress like whores. In fact if a woman is purposely dressing to show off her body she is a whore and will by default attract sexual perverts to her. At big mega-churches it is common to see the women dressed no different than if they were going to a club, showing off their bodies in tight clothing and low cut shirts. They are causing weak men to lust and instead of the fake Christian man getting mad at the pervert staring at his wife (who in many cases wants her dressed like a whore to show off) he should look in the mirror and realize that he is the one who failed in not being a proper head over his wife and loving her like Jesus loved the church. Both him and his wife are in sin and playing the whore along with the pervert lusting and staring. Women of God are dressed modest whether they are in or out of the church building.

“As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.” Proverbs 11:22

Marriage is a blessing and if the devil can not break up a marriage then he wants to see it defiled. Satan loves it when women dress immodestly and it is expected in the world but not in the church. Women want to disrespect themselves by showing off their bodies but still want to be called a woman of God and be respected by others. It can not happen both ways. Yes there are depraved perverts who will still lust over a modestly dressed woman but in most cases the women are bringing the attention that they claim to not like on themselves on purpose. Is it to keep their husbands in check by making him jealous? Is it because they are whores at heart? Is it because the husband encourages it to show off? Those are questions that only God and them have the answer to and that is why it is important that all Christians, no matter who, are always examining themselves.

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