Guilt Tripping


Guilt trip: make (someone) feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something.” The world loves to guilt trip people to to control them. It happens at workplaces, happens constantly in cults and happens in marriages which often destroys them. But it also happens in Christianity. It should be no surprise that the world uses this tactic of control on people which is also a form of witchcraft but it is alarming how often it occurs between true Christians. This is not one Christian telling another who got involved in sin and is backsliding to repent. Telling someone being a homosexual, fornicating,  or getting drunk is sin is not guilt tripping, they should feel guilty if they are into these things because it is taking them to Hell, guilt tripping and conviction are different things. Most times Christians who guilt trip other Christians do it over doubtful disputations and not clear cut issues and believe their personal convictions need to be shared by everyone:

“1 Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations. 2 For one believeth that he may eat all things: another, who is weak, eateth herbs. 3 Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth: for God hath received him.” Romans 14:1-3

Some Christians who exclusively preach at abortion clinics will try and guilt trip other Christians that do not. They will accuse them of not caring about babies getting murdered in the womb and not loving their neighbor in an effort to make them feel bad and start preaching in front of planned parenthoods or joining their group. But where were these same people when the children were getting raped inside the Catholic Church, why were they not on the sidewalk preaching there like other Christians were? The problem is that they do not understand that God gifted them with a special ministry to be able to possibly reach women getting abortions and they feel that since that is where they excel than everyone else should have to do exactly what they do. They do not understand what the Bible teaches on this:

“3 For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith. 4 For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office:” Romans 12:3-4

Some Christians feel like their convictions and what works best for them needs to be what everyone else does. “Christian A” may do well in organized prayer groups several times a week and “Christian B” may not get as much from that as he does alone time with God and spending time in his Bible which no one physically sees but God. “Christian A” feels that since it works for him then “Christian B” is not as zealous for God as he is and “Christian B” doesn’t make enough time for God so he goes on to make him feel guilty and “Christian B” falls into the guilt trip trap and goes to the prayer meetings to be seen just to please “Christian A”. “Christian B” is now a victim of guilt tripping and is not doing the prayer meetings for God but to be a people pleaser and this is not what God wants.

“For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10

A lot of times Christians will do wonderful things but after they do it blow a trumpet and accuse other Christians of being lazy because they are not ministering the same way. They will say “why aren’t more Christians doing what I am doing and sacrificing time for God?” and start guilt tripping other Christians to get them to do things their way with them when they have no idea what the others are actually doing and just not putting on Facebook. Guilt tripping can be started by unrighteous judgment. There is nothing wrong with posting sermons, preaching videos, inspirational posts but when you have to make others feel guilty for not doing exactly what you are doing then you have a problem and need to repent of your Messiah complex:

“Take heed that ye do not your alms before men, to be seen of them: otherwise ye have no reward of your Father which is in heaven.” Matthew 6:1

Some Christians do not understand that just because they are involved in a certain ministry does not mean that everyone else is meant to do that same ministry. Say a Christian starts a strip club rebuking ministry. There is nothing wrong with that Christian inviting others to join him. But as soon as that Christian starts saying “that’s fine if you don’t want to preach to them, they will just die of AIDS and go to Hell because you were too busy and stingy with your time” they have become a guilt tripper. Meanwhile the other Christians are involved in other ministry God has called them to and sacrifice their time greatly. So if a Christian then falls for the guilt trip to people please like the one we talked about above with the prayer groups then there is a person involved in that ministry who’s heart is not in it and that does not set the stage for a successful ministry with someone serving out of guilt to please or shut someone else up.

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Amos 3:3
“Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.” 2 Corinthians 9:7

Guilt tripping is a form of witchcraft because you are trying to get people to do what you want them to do by using manipulation of their mind and spiritual blackmail. It is especially wicked when used for financial gain. It happens all the time in Christianity and it needs to stop. Some Christians need to stop thinking so highly of themselves and do the work in which God has called them to do and not worry if others share their callings or beliefs on non-sin issues. Guilt tripping people into doing things only creates resentment, anxiety and lays burdens on people. I repent of any time that I ever guilt tripped anyone and by the Grace of God will not practice guilt tripping.

“28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

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